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Moreblessing Phiri

Some argue that love can be measured by a number of butterflies in their tummy. Others think love can be measured in bunches of flowers, or by using the words “forever”. However, others argue that love is an emotion, it can’t be seen or touched but it is experienced differently from everyone`s hence it can`t be measured. Furthermore, it is said that true love can never be counted not with money nor time, with sacrifices made, how much love you give because true love can never be measured.

According to my own point of view, love can be measured by the feelings you have for the other person and it is only you that knows the feeling. Therefore, love is measured internally by an individual because it is subjective and personal. To add on, one can also measure love by a number of gifts she receives from her significant other and it is said that it is a sign of caring.  The idea of that one could measure love via their deeds is conceivable.

Love can indeed be measured by the length of time you have had with your significant other. However, this does give you an indication of a successful relationship. It is an indication that you are in a good relationship and no one would stay in an abuse one.

James Clear is of the view that the things we measure are the things we improve. It is only through numbers and clear tracking that we have any idea if we are getting better or worse. You can only measure what you put in a relationship.  Love is about what you put in. It is a feeling rather it is a choice.

Do you think love can be measured, leave a comment below?


The Impact of social Media on Relationships

by Samkeliso Ncube

I remember when we used to write letters and wait for people to call us on our home phone (Landline), I remember a time when people actually got excited when they received mail, when the idea of having a cell phone wasn’t as life changing as it’s become today, those were the good old days. Relationships had value and meaning, being in a relationship was not a two minutes thing like nowadays, “I love you” wasn’t just a joke, the phrase carried value with it.

I remember when I was in high school the excitement which came along with receiving a letter. We used to talk to people whom we know, unlike nowadays where you meet a boyfriend or girlfriend in online platforms like WhatsaAp, facebook and twitter. People are just after having fun, they just want to have as many girls/boyfriends as they can. Relationships in this era can be likened to a game, where people just compete to date a number of people, especially men. This might be because of easy access of women from various parts of the world.

The emergence of social media has led to broke of trust in relationships. Couples are always insecure that that their counter parts are busy talking to other male or female in their social platforms. Social media has raised jealous amongst individuals. For instance if your significant other posts pictures with other people, you will be likely to get jealous and that  can destroy the relationship unlike in the old days where people will privately keep their pictures at home, and relationships would last.

Marriages are destroyed because of social media, especially WhatsaAp. Images of public figures and generally ordinary people are tarnished because of information that would have leaked through social media, especially pictures. Relationships have turned into being stressful as partners will be stressing about who their partner is chatting with on WhatsaAp and other social platforms, unlike in the past where relationships were comprised of joy and happiness.